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PostSubject: My life just gets worse!   11/9/2007, 6:26 am

I have managed to get my hands on the minutes of the meeting that was held behind my back conducted by SS in May.

The top & bottom of it is that T has displayed sexual behaviour/comments and as he had a sore bum that was noted by teaching staff when we lived down south, maybe he is being abused and a care order may be needed to be made to put T into care Sad

Also that my eldest son doesnt live with me full time and they only have my side as to why this is the case, them censored have contacted C's dad to confirm all what i have told them yet they lie like this again! ranting

So basically T has no problems and its down to me & my parenting, also he must be at risk from abuse and im a bad mother as my eldest son doesnt live with me Sad

Im feeling sick & distraught right now, going to see my solicitor on friday morn and he has a copy of these disgusting minutes which he will read and have advice for me of the next step.

TO ALL U PARENTS OUT THERE WHO LIVE WHAT WE LIVE, PLS DONT GIVE UP, SEEK LEGAL HELP IF NEEDED BECAUSE WITHOUT IT WE COULD LOSE OUR KIDS TO THESE UNPROFESSIONAL censored IDIOTS!!!!!!!! PLS DONT LET THE SYSTEM DESTROY OUR LIVES OR THE WELL BEING OF OUR CHILDREN & ADULTS.

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PostSubject: Re: My life just gets worse!   11/9/2007, 8:25 am

hugging Im not really sure what to say hun, will be thinking of you on Friday when you see your solicitor.

Take care xxx
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PostSubject: Re: My life just gets worse!   11/9/2007, 10:27 am

I don't suppose there's much I can say that will make you feel better. However do not let this lie. My thoughts are with you, OK? See you on Thursday (we'll probably get there at about 2pm or so). Smile
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PostSubject: Re: My life just gets worse!   11/9/2007, 11:16 am

Oh god hun, please let us know if you are ok ? Worried for you both Sad
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PostSubject: Re: My life just gets worse!   11/9/2007, 12:42 pm

Paul, Im really pleased you are going to see Bambi on Thurday, please pass on a huge hug from me. I agree with Clair, take your time but please let us know you are ok, been thinking of you all afternoon. xxx
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PostSubject: Re: My life just gets worse!   11/9/2007, 1:49 pm

Thanx for ur concerns guys I love you

Well im not alright tbh, i cant stop crying and i feel like giving up but i know i cant, my head is pounding and i cant see me taking this stress on top of how T is at the mo Sad

the whole thing from beginning to end is lies & putting the blame on it being me, i am quite shocked that this sort of thing happens to people Sad

My solicitor said it is rare but cases like this do happen, how sad is that? I move area to try to get more support for T and shit like this happens, professionals in my new area will read them minutes & how is this going to help my baby? It will make them think T is at risk coz these pathetic minutes say he is and that i am not fit to be his mum Sad

I have just got Ts discharge form out of his file from when he was in hospital down south and it is clearly noted on this form that i had concerns about his itchy skin & his sore bum (to this day T suffers with pain inside of his bum) it took me till i went private a yr ago to get an explanation to his skin problem and his bum still hasnt been addressed due to not letting docs near him to look.

I cant do any more than i have and i couldnt have anymore proof in black & white to show professionals and this is what i get Sad

I wont be about for a few days, i have a lot to do & Paul is visiting on Thursday and no worries i wont let this lie, i will NOT have anyone think i could let anything nasty happen to my son, when all i want is to get him the help he needs.

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PostSubject: Re: My life just gets worse!   11/9/2007, 2:20 pm

Take care hun hugging take as much time as you need.
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PostSubject: Re: My life just gets worse!   11/9/2007, 7:13 pm

I'm really sorry Bambi, this is all you need on top of all the fighting you have already done, thinking of you hugging hugging
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PostSubject: Re: My life just gets worse!   12/9/2007, 7:43 am

Oh, for Christ's sake....

I'm stunned. I don't know what to say.

I feel sick that you are having to go through this. Sick and utterly bloody useless.

From things that you have written on here in the past, I am convinced that T and Charlotte share a similar skin condition and she often complains about her bottom feeling "itchy" and "sore" although there is nothing to see....

I have taken her to the Dr's about it (once) but it was so traumatic for her that I haven't bothered to go back (I use Sudocreme on it and it seems to work quite well).

I thought the Munchousen's By Proxy accusation was bad enough, but THIS??? It sucks.

You must fight this hun. I know you will, but never forget that we are here to rant at and if there is anything that I can do....Just say it.

If I was the religious sort I'd be praying for you, but I'm not; but you are in my thoughts. love heart
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PostSubject: Re: My life just gets worse!   12/9/2007, 11:54 am

Awwwww God bambi I am really sorry you have too go through all this crap.

I wish their was something i could do too help you through all this bullshit (Sorry about my language)

Huggsss bambi do take care of yourself and your boys huggggsss
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PostSubject: Re: My life just gets worse!   12/9/2007, 3:47 pm

Stay strong Northern Lass Born & Bred cos it's all bullshit & the truth will prevail. Love you lots & lots & never forget your strong roots. Your family are bigger than ss !! (I've seen & visited their land!!) xx
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PostSubject: Re: My life just gets worse!   13/9/2007, 3:31 am

Thanx guys I love you

I have spoke with those who love me & T dearly and they are shocked things like this could be said, they are totally untrue and what they are suggesting is NOT the truth.

I spoke with a lady i met and stayed with in Dover (she has a son with severe autism) and when i met them 3 yrs ago her husband said straight away he thought T was aspergers (ASDs were fresh to me at this time). She assured me that the things T says and does that are inappropriate are common with kids on the spectrum, i know it is and my research over the last 3 yrs tells me this also.

I just wonder why they state they dont know where these sexual words and his actions come from, are they not experienced enough to know ASD inside out?

Also what concerned me about these minutes is that the sessional worker who used to take him out twice a week did not attend the meeting, i wonder why?

It is stated that T would start to play up on the way home with her, basically insinuating that T didnt like the thought of coming back home to me. What they forgot to conveniently mention is that T loses the plot at having to go to stay with his dad and the same with many other outings we have to make. They make me sick! How dare they do this! Sad

Im feeling a bit better but i wont be fully satisfied until those who have slandered me & my family are brought to justice, this cannot be happening to parents & carers but sadly it is.

I see my solicitor in the morn thank god, he is a god send for helping with Ts case like he is.

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PostSubject: Re: My life just gets worse!   13/9/2007, 1:02 pm

This is just so awful for you Sad

J often plays up on the way home because he doesn't want to come home. I know J's non verbal but maybe T can't express that he's having a nice time and wants to stay out longer.

J never waves goodbye to me when I put him on the school bus but will happily wave goodbye to the driver and escort when they drop him off at home. I often worry that they must think he hates being with me. He is, like T, a much loved, well protected child who shows a lot of affection on his terms. It's just ridiculous that they are using things like that to pin stuff on you.

The itchy bum thing, have you checked for threadworms? Sorry it's a bit gross sounding but we discovered my son had them at the beginning of the school hols and have treated him for them. They re-occur and re-occur so it needs to be checked regularly. Itching is often worse at night. Loads of kids get them, it's not a matter of being dirty or anything.

So worried for you, I know of another family who have been through a false abuse allegation and it is just devastating Sad
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PostSubject: Re: My life just gets worse!   13/9/2007, 1:57 pm

I cant get Ts bottom prob addressed Clair coz he wont ever let a doc near his bottom but is noted in GP records that i have made it known there is a prob, so them idiots can go suck on that and see where it gets em!

I know that T has transition probs and i have lived with it for many yrs, they are clutching at straws there by saying these nasty things & its criminal!

I will take them to the cleaners big style now and they have done it all themselves! grrrrrrrrr i am so angry but im having to keep my cool as i still need to live my life each & everyday.

So sorry to know u know someone else who has been through this Clair and u r right it is totally devastating Sad

Paul met T today and he saw what he is like, he was violent towards me and his incessant talking about football (one of his obsessions) when he wanted Paul to do what he wanted he grabbed Paul's arm to lead him to where he wanted him. I see what many people who come into our lives see and it is a little boy who clearly & obviously has an ASD.

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PostSubject: Re: My life just gets worse!   13/9/2007, 2:05 pm

If it's any comfort to you Bambi I used to do the hand-tugging thing when I was younger. Especially if my mum was talking to someone for ages. The boredom of standing around just used to be too much. I saw his being violent towards you and have to confess that I felt quite saddened by it.
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PostSubject: Re: My life just gets worse!   13/9/2007, 2:22 pm

Bless ya Paul, it saddens me too when others have to witness T being violent coz it sure is easier to take when no-one is there Sad

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